shippingisnotactivism:

Here’s the thing, guys: you don’t have to appease antis!

First of all, you can’t! It doesn’t matter what kind of horrific abuse you’ve been subjected to, antis will never ever think it’s “good enough.” It will never grant you a “permission” to ship “gross” ships or have “bad” kinks. It will simply never happen.

Because the whole ~you can’t do that unless you are a survivor uwu~ thing antis do? It ‘s bullshit. They are constantly moving the goalposts!

– but you need to find better coping

– but you can only cope in private

– but actually if you do this, I am going to think you are not a survivor.

Don’t try to appease antis. Stop trying to justify your ships and your kinks to them. You are good enough!

You’re a survivor of emotional abuse but not sexual? You are good enough!

A survivor of sexual abuse but not this or that kind? You are good enough!

A survivor of physical abuse, but not emotional or sexual? You are good enough!

Second of all, none of this matters! 

The only question you need to ask yourselves is: are you hurting anyone? Are you hurting any living, breathing person in real life? If the answer is “no,” then you are good enough! Whatever you ship or kink, whatever you fantasise about, no matter how “disgusting” some might find it, as long as you are not hurting real people, YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!