Anyway, I think cis women who like see trans women as sisters have a certain obligation on this site to actively counter terf recruiting. Because I regularly see terfs actively recruit teenagers and young adults into their ideology (a strategically smart move if you want your otherwise dying brand of hate to stay relevant into the future). Cis allies, especially our radfem allies need to be actively countering that. Trans women, especially trans dykes like myself can’t do anything to counter it because thy kids they go after already a priori assume we have subhuman status. It can literally only be actively fought by cis women.
On my discourse blog a terf once messaged me and was very kind to me and seemed very interested in my views and my health and even wanted to be long-term friends with me. They’re incredibly manipulative and will Literally try to indoctrinate you and take advantage of your mental illness just to get you to start spreading their bigoted, transmisogynistic and rumor-based ideology.
You’re likely to be targeted if you’re a cis lesbian, a minor, mentally ill, or a discourse blog. Just remember that terfs don’t care about people, they care about numbers; i.e., trans woman numbers going down and terf numbers going up.
that one ‘’i heart pizza’’ shirt that makes you pull pizzas out of your ass when you dance
Item: That One “I Heart Pizza” Shirt That Makes You Pull Pizzas Out of Your Ass When You Dance. The name is something of a misnomer; when wearing the shirt, doing a little dance opens a fourth-dimensional portal to the Elemental Plane of Pizza behind your back, allowing you to pull d6 slices per round into your plane; fortunately, your ass does not come into play.
When I’m out and about and need to escape being overwhelmed with noise, light, or socializing, and the people I’m with don’t know I’m autistic, I don’t tell them that I’m heading towards a meltdown or am experiencing sensory overload.
I tell them I’m getting a migraine.
Meltdowns and migraines are, from my understanding, neurologically similar events, and for me they often go hand in hand– if I get one, it’s a signal to me that I’m likely to get the other pretty soon and need to take care of myself. The remedy is the same: removing myself from the situation and retreating to a dark, quiet room.
The difference is that NTs often don’t understand and simply dismiss sensory overload if you explain it to them as such, but nearly all of them understand what a migraine is and sympathize. 99% of the time, if I tell a NT that I have a migraine or am about to get one, they treat it as an emergency and help me get away from the source of the overload as quickly as possible. I am then free to recover in a quiet, dark place without anyone trying to invalidate my needs, forcing me to “tough it out”, or thinking that I’m rude for having to leave or to outright avoid certain events or situations in the first place.
Endorsed.
One of my partners gets seizures of the kind that disrupt sensory perceptions and cognition without being visible from the outside: we just call ‘em migraines sometimes for similar reasons.
If you do get actual migraines, it isn’t much of a stretch of the truth to say you’re getting one when you’re going to be getting one shortly.
But if you don’t, and you have a state of incapacity that requires roughly the same care? You totally have my permission as a bona fide migraine sufferer to just call it a damn migraine.
There is nothing wrong with providing a rough shorthand description to a stranger. You don’t owe any random person your full medical history, especially when you’re not in a state to be able to explain it!
… Oh. I thought migraines and overload were coincidentally overlapping. This explains a lot, actually.
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